If you’re stuck on a problem right now, read this.

Rumination, gripping and not forgiving are all rooted in the same process:

Trying to find a (re)solution to something, to release an emotion you’re stuck on.

Which can’t be done only by thinking, nor only by feeling. I’d say neither.

It happens in the “space” left in between.

Once you have gone through exercises designed to „force the change“, could be somatic, could be cognitive exercise, doesn’t matter.

They have something in common: Correcting and therefore reinforcing the problem.

And even if you do something somatic, you involve the brain to „do the exercise“. You focus on the problem, which increases its existence. You might feel a sense of release, but it will not last. The sheer fact that you observe the problem with the intent to solve it, keeps you stuck in a loop.

The constant monitoring prevents the emotional state from completing and resolving. (An analogy would be The quantum Zeno effect: the constant observation prevents a system from changing states.)

The smarter and sensitive to your environment you are, the more difficult it is to exit the loop.

Mostly you keep circling between avoiding looking at your current reality, and obsessing over a solution to change it.

From a spiritual, manifesting point of view, you create new layers and reinforce the problem by trying to solve it. You reinforce the focus and the amount of energy involved in it. It becomes bigger and entangled in multiple layers.

The letting go, resolves it.

And you can only let go of something by „gripping“ onto something else. Something that has no other purpose, than just wanting to be right here, right now.

And what is the fastest way to “wanting to be right here, right now”?

Certainly not forcing yourself into “the present moment”. That is counterproductive.

Nor avoid by “filling the void” with something else or reframing, or “working on it” which can be an avoidance as well, depending on the context.

The fastest way is to do the thing you really want to do, right here, right now.

Put in other words: Following your desires. Your heart.

I didn’t say follow your addictions and fears.

Even having the thing you want to have, right here, right now, if you can.

Put simply, the way out is:

“What do I feel called to be, do or have just right now?”

And yes, that can mean something as frivolous and wonderful as purchasing a handbag, especially if you don’t need it.

Not every consumption is an impulsive purchase to fill a void.

Not every breathwork is mindful and calms you down.

Not every “negative” thought that keeps recurring is to be immediately „reframed“ and „corrected“. It can be a call to act on it.

That’s why Hoʻoponopono, or the “Be in the eternal present” or the infamous “Is it true?” or: “Where do you feel it in your body?” can completely backfire, if it’s not aligned with you right now.

What will help is to become a master at:

“What do I really want and need right now?” Because it’s the fastest, happiest track.

What you’re chasing is always a state. And that state has many ways to be reached.

And by the way, the more you’re following this, instead of “changing your thoughts” and “breathing into the feeling”, the less you’ll be resisting, chasing, doing and consuming through the lens of “lack”.

And the more you’ll be, do and have, what you really want to be, do and have.

Until next time,

M

PS: If you want to

• name what you feel but can’t quite articulate
• reconnect to intuitive intelligence without bypassing the mind
• shift out of subtle freeze into aliveness
• think clearly without collapsing into overthinking
• access desire without pressure
• Create (manifest) from a grounded and sovereign identity, rather than from fear.

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